Choices and changes
Our lives have changed in many ways during the pandemic. Our natural inclination is to continue doing the same things in the same way, partly in the hope that any problems will go away soon.
The reality is that there are always changes in our lives – in our work, relationships, finances, and health. Some of those changes are beyond our control. What we can control is how we respond and adapt, even in the face of uncertainty about how things will work out.
For me, a big issue in my early 70’s was what I wanted to do about my love of music, besides listening to it on the radio. I considered taking up the cello and getting good enough to play Beethoven string quartets. But I faced the issue of my own aging. Playing at that level would take considerable time and energy. Was I too old to start – mentally and physically? What if I developed arthritis, got sick or died, would it have been worth it? I decided to do it anyway. Now after listening to YoYo Ma on the radio, I find my own cello-playing frustrating. Even so, it brings me joy.
During the pandemic and at other times of change we have choices to make – about our money, time, and activities.
Here is an exercise you can do to help you make decisions and minimize regret afterwards.
Imagine that the epidemic is now over, and you are looking back at your decisions. For each alternative choice that you had (e.g. using your time to start a new hobby, exercise program, musical instrument or make a major purchase), did you make the right decision?
- What if the quarantine is over very soon?
- What if the quarantine goes on for a very long time?
You may also want to consider
- What choice that you make now will increase the quality of your life while you are waiting for the epidemic to end?
- What choice that you make now will provide joy and meaning for your whole life?
Remember that no choice is a choice.